Comments on: Still treated like a child at university?

By: Stronger Than Yesterday ♥

Stronger Than Yesterday ♥ — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 07:18:09 +0000

Considering all of that, I think you NEED to cut all contact, at least for the time being. She is going to too far. You’re at college, you should be getting out and experiencing adult life, partying, having fun. You should be able to go out and have fun – you shouldn’t be the one humiliated by her embarrassing needy mother. She needs to be shocked into realising that you’re not a little girl any more, and that she’s being far too obsessive. Seriously, calling campus security same time every day? They probably have a laugh everytime they get off from being on the phone with her.

Block your mother on facebook. Ask your friends to block her. No, asking security not to give her your whereabouts isn’t unreasonable. It’s your right to keep that information private. If you were a minor, they’d tell her as she’s legally responsible for you, but you’re legally responsible for yourself now. If you tell them you have a problem with them giving out that information, they should keep it private, as your mother has no right to demand it.

Next time she calls you, the second she begins whining about passwords, say calmly and clearly; "You don’t need to know that. I’m an adult, and have my privacy." Then end the call. She should eventually get the message. If not, just resort to ending the call as soon as she mentions it, without a reply.

Yeah, she’s your mother and you love her, but you also need a life.

By: frogma (tadpole due July 25th)

frogma (tadpole due July 25th) — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 07:18:09 +0000

If you’re REALLY paying your own way, cut the umbilical cord and tell her to leave you alone. Tell security to ignore her. Block her on Facebook.

But don’t come crying to her when you can’t pay your books or car insurance…

By: $$$

$$$ — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 07:18:09 +0000

everyone wants treated a certain way where ever they are at…. you outta be glad your mom suffocates you at least someone cares about you .. wait til ur a mom and read the newspapers and watch the news on television… and she knows how college boys and men are.. shes gonna worry about you until the day she dies …. it isnt embarrassing at all .. shes your mom the heck with what everyone else thinks or what you think they are thinking…. they deserve to be scared that you got a mom in case anyone wants to kidnap you rape you violate you harm you in any way she wants you respected by all…. appreciate her big time honey…….. plus the bond thing can never be cut… its so hard to be moms and suffer too i feel soo sorry for all moms cause all i said all moms feel obligated to protect all children and thats so unfair to all moms.. cause all moms gotta watch their own backs too at the same time plus health problems problems period… its like all moms have to be super women..no sermon no scolding just communicating with you … or you can just tell her she needs to rest and think only about her self for a while that you will deal with life on your own as best as you can so the poor dear can get some rest but she will still worry about you..tell her to take a nice vacation or something…

By: Mr. Dave

Mr. Dave — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 07:18:09 +0000

Let me guess; you’re an only child, or the baby of the family? Sounds like Mommy is having a serious case of Empty Nest Syndrome. If there were still kids at home, she wouldn’t have time for this foolishness. On one hand you can be thankful you have a mother who cares. Many people don’t. On the other hand, it sounds like Mommy has some serious control issues. There is caring, and then there is smothering.
If you’re truly paying your own freight (not just for your own education but for your dorm, food, clothing, etc….nothing from Mom & Dad), then here’s an idea; change your cellphone number, or at the very least have your cell company block all her numbers, so she CAN’T call you. Also speak to Campus Security. Tell them the situation. Ask them to be polite, but to not jump at her beck and call. If she calls regularly, I guarantee they think your Mom is as big of a PITA as you do…actually bigger. She’s your Mom after all. Not theirs. If you want to go so far as this you can ‘de-friend’ her on Facebook, ask your friend(s) to do the same, and block her.
Then write her a letter. Tell her why you’ve done all this, and that you want a relationship, but that you’re no longer a child, and do not need, nor want, her constant interference in your life. If she can abide by this, then fine, you’ll resume regular contact. Otherwise, that’ll be it until such time she can come to grips with the fact that you’re no longer a child, and do not need her to hold your hand every step of the way. The best way to get your parents to quit treating you like a child, is to quit acting like one. By accepting this bizarre and controlling behaviour, you’re inadvertently condoning it. Lay down the law for your ADULT relationship with Mommy, and she’ll just have to adjust.
On the other hand, if your life is in any way tied to Mommy & Daddy’s wallet, you’re their monkey until you cut the apron strings completely. Dance, monkey, dance!